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Now believe it or not I am not the most perfect Husband in this world! I know it is hard to believe but I’m big enough to admit it. (Literally!) Yet still in this world there is a woman that has been with me through all the triumphs, tragedies and mistakes over the past 22 years. She has loved me sometimes more than I’ve loved myself. A few things I’ve learned that helps me keep it together is to understand the basics and trust in God that he will take care of us.

1. Marriage Takes Teamwork.
If you could imagine, the person you married as a gift from God, then the things you do would begin to work towards building up the gift you have been blessed with, instead of doing things that would tear down your relationship.

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2:22-24

2. Marriage Takes Commitment
When you stood at the altar, making promises and stating your vows to the person you love, that was the starting point for your commitment to stay married for life! How well you keep those promises and vows shows your level of commitment to the marriage. Commitment is not difficult to achieve when you make marriage an important aspect of your life.

God’s intention for marriage is a commitment for life. At the beginning of the world God created the union of marriage between a man and a woman to be permanent until death. Treat your gift with the commitment it deserves.

3. Marriage Takes Respect
Respect is submission, humility and appreciation all rolled into one. The flawed view of the world is that these things should be earned. Building up points in your marriage simply to be treated with respect is wrong. This is what conditional love is all about. God’s design for marriage is based upon unconditional love for each other. Submission is voluntarily cooperating with your spouse out of love and respect for them.

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Romans 12:10

Of course this is my main reason. What else is there? They say that love conquers all so why should there be more. After 21 years of marriage I’ve learned there is!

My wife is incredible. She works, takes care of the family, house, etc. I know that I sometimes forget the things that she does and rarely thank her for them. Even if I try to hide it, it is there and it is unfair. With two kids and our jobs that we really like and we work hard, Life gets in the way because I let it.

But, lately I’ve had this need to renew the deep love and desire to be close to her again. She is everything to me. I had written a story for her not too long ago and one of the sentences in the story states I will tell her all the reasons why I married her. When I wrote that I thought, “it can’t be hard.” It’s not, but it’s so much easier to say than to do.

So I started writing them down. It’s not as easy as I thought it would be. I mean so far I have 17 things written I love about her. That’s a good start I thought but what is the meaning behind the reason? I don’t just want to say them without a meaning behind them. Doesn’t seem to matter much if I can’t express why I feel the way I do.

So here I go posting the first one which is the easiest to portray and the following reasons will simply be posted over time.